Have you ever Googled any of the following phrases:
Why am I hungry all the time?
Sick and tired of being sick and tired
Why can’t I lose weight?
I have. What I was served up were articles about exercise, or metabolism, or blame along the ‘you’re not trying hard enough’ variety. Not one search result talked about love or acceptance or re-framing my thoughts.
I wanted to create a place that women who are struggling with their weight can put into a search engine and find a resource that will speak positivity and kindness to them. A community where they can reach out and touch love and not shame. I wanted to create a website where I could both help myself and other people, by finding my tribe. Women just like me, who are good people with bad habits and just want a bit of help and understanding whilst they are on their journeys.
We have all heard the ‘advice’ eat less and move more. Yes – great advice if your problems are on the level of diet and exercise. But if my problems were on the level of diet and exercise then I’d have had this weight issue cracked years ago. But I haven’t.
I’ve spent the best part of 30 years as a comfort eater, using food to medicate, to mask my emotions, to help me with any extreme of emotion whether that be a positive one or a negative one. Comfort eaters don’t just exist in misery, eating a tub of ice cream solo in their pyjamas at home. They also exist in joyous occasions, in happy social events with friends. They can be the life of the party – bubbly, gregarious, popular, but still feel alone in their emotions and habits.
For whatever reason, people who eat for comfort have found at some stage along the way that food made them feel better once – probably very early on in their childhood and this habit was then sealed. You want to feel better? Then eat this. And it continued to work! Who doesn’t feel happy and satisfied after a warm, filling meal? But this is the screwed up part – when that band aid becomes what you automatically go to with any emotion that makes you uncomfortable. As a way to avoid feeling the feeling – good or bad.
Feelings leave us vulnerable. Exposed. Those that are comfortable with themselves and their feelings often don’t have a need to do something like eating to take those feelings away.
Love Yourself Slim is not about promoting slim as an ideal. It is about meeting my tribe where they are and for many of us, being slim is what we think we want for ourselves – “life will be better when I’m slim”. I don’t agree – it is about empowerment and acceptance. It is about love and kindness. It is about being our best selves so the name Love Yourself Slim is about loving yourself whatever size you are. Maybe you will get ‘slim’ one day – maybe not, but that isn’t the point. The point is the journey and I’m here to help you with that every step of the way.