I think as humans we are constantly evolving. Our generation is more evolved than the last and the next one will be more evolved than us. We always think we are doing a better job than our parents did, right?
I know that I have been transforming for years – the person I was in my early 20s is so far removed from who I am today. But isn’t that just the normal process of growing up? We live, we learn, we become wiser, life experiences shape us. Those hard edges get softened over time, we become calmer, more able to see the bigger picture, able to predict some outcomes and adjust ourselves accordingly. Basically we grow into ourselves, into the people we were born to be.
Just lately I can feel that but see it too in my own life. Sharing my struggles on this website as someone who has had a problem with disordered eating has helped things to shift in me. Admitting that I don’t know what I’m doing, and saying to the universe and anyone else who will listen that I’m not perfect and I haven’t got all the answers has been freeing. Because a by product of being a career girl in my 20s was the need to have a hard armour and never admit if you don’t know what to do – just say ‘yes’ and figure it out along the way! Maybe things are different now for the Millennial generation but when I was on the first rung of the career ladder, you had to know it all, be fearless, act ‘as if’. I believe the world is ready for a more soul centered way of operating. A more nurturing and inclusive operating system, and we are moving toward that time. I also think it will be led by women, natures nurturers. The Dalai Lama after all said “The world will be saved by the western woman” at the Peace Summit in Canada, 2009.
My daughter and I being Goddesses and playing with her Snapchat effects! We had a girls night recently when this shot was taken. I love spending time with her and watching the woman she is becoming. We have a happy relationship that I treasure, whilst still being the unpopular mum at times. I know that in a few short years when she is an adult and doesn't have to listen to anything I say, that she'll be able to stand on her own two and those values that are getting drip fed without her realising right now, will guide her in the future. In the meantime, I'm content to play along with pouts and poses. . . #loveyourselfslim #mumsofinstagram #momsofinstagram #daughter #darlingdaughter #thatsdarling #littlestoriesoflife #sisterhood #womenempowerment #womensstyle #goddesspose #goddess
The photo above is from my Instagram and shows my daughter and I embracing our inner Goddess. We were on a night out together and she was mucking about with the various Snapchat filters – we could have had dog ears on the shot, but I gently guided her to the flower wreaths. Dog ears are fun and all that, but when my daughter looks back on photos of us in the future, I want her to see that we are Goddesses. I want her to embrace her own inner Goddess, and be a strong woman who knows herself. To me that is what a Goddess is. Not some distant ethereal spirit being in the sky that we cannot hope to touch, but a living, breathing woman who values her own worth and intuitively knows the right path for herself. A woman of inner beauty, and when we accept ourselves exactly the way we are, that is what we become – our light shines from inside us.
I’m enjoying both observing and feeling the changes within me as I shape shift and evolve into the next stage of my life. I haven’t done raising my babies yet but they are now in and approaching the teenage stage so I’m out of the daily mothering duties attached to very young children. It means I have a bit more time for me! Also, I said I was enjoying feeling the changes but I have to share that the feeling is not always a happy emotion. I was crying on the sofa earlier today, releasing an emotion that was brought up within me. Nothing external had changed in my world, but I’m noticing some feelings rising, now I am accepting them and allowing them to pass through me – rather than ‘eating’ them as I did before. But the crying is nothing to fear or repress, I read this today on The Sassy She, a blog by Lisa Lister and found it very true: You have to feel it to heal it.
Thanks for reading. Please share ‘who the woman you are meant to be’ is, in the comments. I’d love to know you better!